It seems A-bhigyaan did manage to generate some bit of readership interest. Thank you guys for donating the precious 200-odd seconds of your lives, they mean a lot to me.
It’s not purely coincidental that this blog is a continuation of Gyaan 3 of the last blog – “Never shy away from saying I like You.”
Over the last one week, I have learnt how most people suffer from acute myopia in their perception of these three seemingly simple words – I LIKE YOU.
On the face of it, while my liking you seems to be a mere acknowledgement of appreciation, some ambitious minds assume the words to mean nothing, but a definitive way of proposing love.
Does it require great rocket science to understand that there already exists a hackneyed phrase (I LOVE YOU) for expressing such an emotion. It is strange how some ‘I Love You-obsessed’ souls fail to see the basic difference between two phrases — one which symbolises appreciation, the other which in most cases symbolises desperation.
On a lighter note, go watch the movie Saudagar...I have faint recollections of Vivek Mushran and Manisha Koirala explaining to people -- “ILU ka matlab I Love You”…Now, that makes for some good B-grade reading!!
It’s but unfortunate that such phrases today determine where you stand in a relationship. I have seen several people bloat their ego when they hear you say ‘I like you’; it’s almost as if on second thought you wonder if you are better off not admitting your appreciation.
I hope I am wrong when I say this: most of us derive a sense of pleasure in holding the upper hand in any relationship, we almost construe that when someone falls for our wit, intelligence and pulchritude, they are bowing a level lower than where we are. It seems we have forgotten the art of taking in appreciation with humility in place.
Strange why several poets have eulogised the ‘I love you’ phrase, but none have accorded enough merit to the power of ‘I like You'. I do not intend to correct them, amend their follies or emend their thought, I only wish to point out that of the people who heard me say ‘I Like You’, only those stayed who saw my meaning and intent through.
I cannot afford to lose people whom I like, coz I like very few. And if you are among those who have at some point in your lives heard me say I like you, know as much and not more.
And for all you friends who fear admitting your appreciation thinking saying ‘I Like You’ would make you a laughing stock among his/ her friends, take a step back; for only the brave have the might and right to say just exactly what they mean.
If I tell you its 4.45 am and I’m still going strong, you may erroneously assume that I’m undertaking a ‘mistimed intellectual discourse’. On the contrary, I’d say this was long pending. Two weeks ago, I had the privilege of being misunderstood.
PS: I LIKE YOU
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abhi tunne merko toh i love u bola tha if i'm not wrong??
ReplyDeletei like u..:)
ReplyDeleteWhy do I have a feeling that I know where this is coming from....:) the best thing you can do to people is tell them what you feel for them. If they appreciate your appreciation its good ....if they don't that's completely their problem.... but I also believe that in the repeated attempts that we make in making the person understand the feeling ....we might just loose its importance / value...and this can lead to a lot of MISUNDERSTANDINGS and somteimes in some wrong decisions.
ReplyDeleteTake out all the frustrations..for some people have so much "ego" that they seem to believe they are above others..."some ambitious minds assume the words to mean nothing, but a definitive way of proposing love."
ReplyDeleteHow could u ever be close to someone like that though? Bad judgement of character...happens
However once the realization dawns, never go back!!
I have question.what would a person say to another, who he/she has a crush on but doesn't love yet???"I like you" right?there is a stage between "appreciation" and "desperation" as you mentioned, where I may like you more than just as a friend but the feelings aren't that strong that i would use the big L-word.so there are scales of "i like you" too. "i like you, you are a funny guy", "i like you, you are a good friend" or "i like you, i'd like to date you" and so on. and so i think, and i may be wrong, it isn't the "i like you" that people hesitate saying..it's the part that follows. and more than that, it's the response/reaction that scares people from saying what they want to.what if he/she doesn't like me back?it would break my heart a little.nobody wants a broken heart.
ReplyDeleteI had read this blog a few months ago as well but i hadn't noticed the last line untill i read it again yesterday. Would love to hear the story behind this!!
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